Member Monday: Sheila Othman shares her motivation

Sheila’s sister is her main motivator in dental school and life.

A few years ago, it became evident to me that not only did I find what was important in my life, but also what purpose my life holds. I believe everyone has a purpose in life and finding out is one of the greatest achievements because only then you can truly start living. I also believe that remaining motivated and focused is two of the most powerful assets to a person, especially one in school such as myself. It would be unheard of to say that dental school is a complete breeze and that every step along the way proposes no difficulty. Therefore, I would like to share what I feel keeps me most focused, determined, and motivated throughout my dental school career.

April 28, 1994 was perhaps the day that my purpose was born, yet it was not until years later that I discovered truly why. My sister, Sarah, was born extremely premature, and has some developmental disabilities that prohibit her from taking part in all of what we in society would claim to be normal activities. Although she is not labeled as autistic or another syndrome, she does need some extra help throughout the day. Most doctors agreed that she would never be “normal” and would in fact be considered “mentally disabled” when she was born. This was unacceptable to my mother and father and through hard work, hours of learning, teaching, even struggling, she has surprised all of the doctors that thought she could never amount to anything. She has turned into one of the most vivacious, charming, and strong-willed young girl that I have ever come across.

It may be hard to understand why my sister and her situation is the reason I am able to stay focused and motivated throughout dental school. What could the two possibly have in relation? I am a firm believer that if you have something to live for, such as purpose, desire, or a dream, your motivation and determination suddenly will skyrocket. I know that my success is so crucial for my sister to be able to have a normal “life” because I will be responsible for her one day. And although this may be a scary concept or huge amount of pressure, I have never felt more focused and determined to succeed in order to bring her happiness and support in the future. My success shapes her future and her world and because of that, I could not and will not ever jeopardize my dental school career.

So if there is one thing I could share with you all today, it would be to find your purpose, your desire, your dream and move forward. Don’t look back. Don’t lose focus or determination. You can and will achieve it no matter what obstacles are standing before you. Believe that there are no limits. Stand firmly for what you believe in. And remember—“There are two great days in a person’s life—the day we are born and the day we discover why.” ~William Barclay

~Sheila Othman, Arizona ’15

 
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  1. Ivana Ridzon Yazbek Monday - 14 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. It's very inspiring.
  2. Ivette Jorge Monday - 14 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Extremely motivational. You and your family are very blessed to have each other!
  3. Ivie Okundaye Monday - 14 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Thank you Sheila for sharing such a precious story with us. Your experience inspires me to excel in my own coursework and to pursue my wildest dreams. As a medical student and an older sister, I respect and admire your journey to a career in dentistry and loyalty you have toward your family. What was most striking to me was the strength you possessed to succeed despite what could have been a set back. Perhaps we could all benefit from adopting this attitude of using our most intimate circumstances as motivation to reach excellence in a particular area. I accept your challenge to move beyond the limitations of satisfying our immediate needs, albeit important, and encompass a soul-searching quest to identify and fulfill our specific purpose in life. The more times I read this article, the more I realize that this fulfillment is greater than all of the sacrifices and challenges that it requires. Such a quest demands laser sharp focus and a daring, bold attitude. Barclay's quotation at the end is spot on. The beauty of purpose is that I am a powerful agent in fulfilling my own destiny. And it's time to get to work!
  4. Rodger Miyata Monday - 14 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    As someone who has grown up with a sister who is "mentally disabled", I find this very insightful. I fully admire the way you have made your own goals synonymous with the best interests of your sister. While you might not admit it, it is a lot of pressure to deal with, and that is quite awe-inspiring. Most people live most of their lives looking to find their purpose and reach that point of self-actualization. Thank you for sharing your story!
  5. Arif I. Monday - 14 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Great piece and Thank You for sharing that story with us. I'm sure you know being in professional school, there are many times where you question why you are doing this. Stories like this are always a great reminder on why we chose the path we did and humbling. I wish you all the best!!!
  6. Holly M Monday - 14 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    As someone who has had the honor to grow up knowing Sarah & Sheila, I can honestly say I've never known a more determined family. They never rest or settle for average, so it's no surprise to me that Sarah has grown into the brilliant young lady she has & that she is the definition of Sheila's purpose. Truly a family full of remarkable hard working people...and as Jodie Foster said herself- "Normal is not something to aspire to...it's something to get away from".
  7. Kate S Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Your sister is inspiring and so are you! She is lucky to have a sister like you. Keep pushing and I have no doubts you will continue to succeed in school and after
  8. KJPH Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Beautifully written, Sheila. I, too, had the honor of growing up with you and your family. What wonderful memories. You, your words, your sister and your family are all blessings. These "blessings" will not only inspire your fellow classmates, but also many others who wish to follow their dreams and who have a journey of their own to overcome. <3
  9. LBW Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    What an inspiring and motivational story. I am blessed to know Sheila and Sarah very well and I can say I have never met two sisters that have such an incredible bond as these two. The energy they receive from one another is above and beyond. I am so proud of your accomplishments this far in your education Sheila and I know Sarah is too.
  10. Hailey Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Sheila you have always been an amazing person, inside and out. Your drive and positive attitude, no matter what the circumstances is not only inspiring but a breath of fresh air. I admire your passion for family and desire to fulfill your dream-something many people are too scared to do. I know your entire family (Sarah and your parents included) are extraordinarily proud of you!
  11. Shelby C Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    I am so unbelievably proud of you and for sharing your story. It takes a lot of courage to write and share your thoughts and feelings. You are the most determined person i know Sheila and i know it will push you and mold you into a wonderful, amazing woman. It already has this far and you can only go up from here. No one is normal, there is no such thing as normal. We are all different. Different is what makes us our own special person in this crazy world. Don't inspire to be normal, inspire to be different.
  12. Your mom Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    I am so proud of you and Sarah is lucky to have you. God blessed me with wonderful children and I hope you always stay together and care about each other. I am very proud of you and keep up the good work.
  13. D Tuesday - 15 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    What an amazing story about strong family ties, hard work, and selflessness!!! Thank you for sharing it with all of us!
  14. Courtney Lucas Thursday - 17 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    This is truly an inspiring piece. Your courage and dedication to both your future and family are paramount. I wish you and your family well wishes. You are going to be an amazing dentist in the near future. Never lose your focus and kind heart. The dental profession will surely benefit by having more people like you!
  15. Katelyn Friday - 18 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    I am very blessed to have had you in my life since we were 8 years old. You are an amazing person, smart, honest, hard-working, and persistance. I am positive you will become the excellent dentist you are studying so hard to be. Sarah is a very lucky young girl to have you as her big sister! Soon all your hard work will be paid off!
  16. Lynn Miyata Friday - 18 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Nice job, Sheila! Your family must be so proud of you. You are an inspiration to all of us whose families include someone with special needs. Good luck to you and know that we are all cheering for you! Hang in there and keep up the great determination and positive attitude!
  17. Brenda Friday - 18 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    I enjoyed reading this and think you are an amazing young lady. Mostly, I think how lucky your family is to have you! You are a blessing to your sister. And your parents must be very relieved that you are willing to help watch over your sister. I wish you all the best on your educational journey!
  18. CW Saturday - 19 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    I think it is amazing how you have embraced the responsibility of caring for Sarah and used it as a driving force to pursue your dreams successfully. Your determination and hard work is an incredible reflection of how important she is to you. Sarah is blessed to have you as an older sister.
  19. RMS Wednesday - 23 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    I am so happy you have taken time to share this wonderful story. For those who know you and how hard you are working this story allows us to see the source of your strength and drive. It also reminds everyone that we should be working just as hard as you. Keep up the hard work.
  20. Drew Thursday - 24 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    A very inspirational story, thanks for sharing it with us! Stories like this help us answer questions about why we chose the path we did.
  21. Robert Joehanson Thursday - 24 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Beautiful story. Families are there to help guide you to your purpose. All you need is the right information intersecting with the perfect opportunity, and you find it.
  22. Nanea Thursday - 24 / 01 / 2013 Reply
    Beautiful. You are an amazing inspiration to all of us! As someone in a similar situation, it is wonderful to hear your determination ring through. Thank you so much for sharing.
  23. Practical Paleo Now On Sale! Friday - 12 / 04 / 2013 Reply
    Once I originally commented I clicked the -Notify me when new comments are added- checkbox and now each time a remark is added I get four emails with the same comment. Is there any way you may take away me from that service? Thanks!

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